disobedient -
not obeying or complying with commands of those in authority; "disobedient children"
obedient dutifully complying with the commands or instructions of those in authority; "an obedient soldier"; "obedient children"; "a little man obedient to his wife"; "the obedient colonies...are heavily taxed; the refractory remain unburdened"- Edmund Burke
bad feeling physical discomfort or pain (`tough' is occasionally used colloquially for `bad'); "my throat feels bad"; "she felt bad all over"; "he was feeling tough after a restless night"
defiant,
noncompliant boldly resisting authority or an opposing force; "brought up to be aggressive and defiant"; "a defiant attitude"
intractable not tractable; difficult to manage or mold; "an intractable disposition"; "intractable pain"; "the most intractable issue of our era"; "intractable metal"
difficult,
unmanageable not easy; requiring great physical or mental effort to accomplish or comprehend or endure; "a difficult task"; "nesting places on the cliffs are difficult of access"; "difficult times"; "why is it so hard for you to keep a secret?"
obedience behavior intended to please your parents; "their children were never very strong on obedience"; "he went to law school out of respect for his father's wishes"